Friday, March 18, 2005

"I love you."

Guy: "I love you"
Girl: "I love you too"
(Couple look at each other's eyes, locked in warm embrace and mmmmmmuah smack!)

Just how important is this phrase "I love you." And Just how often is it uttered? Especially in a less expressive culture like ours?

We get a lot of the above scene, thanks to reading all those teenage romance novels and romantic movies but how is it like in real life? Are guys more 'shy' to utter it? Are girls more eager to hear it? Is it a gender difference thing or a culture thing, whether its uttered or not?

These are questions MG is asking herself today. You see, I don't think many of us grew up in homes where everybody runs around saying "I love you." Mr MG has said it ? times (*count count count*) err.. use one hand oso can count. Claims he's "shy" wor. He says action speaks louder than words. He says always say oso meaningless if the action says otherwise. So how to tell if my Mr MG loves me? Hmmm... ok lets see,
  • he switches on/off my handphone for me when we are going out and makes sure my batteries are charged. (Haha. this one oso counted. Little things counts mah.)
  • he goes out and buys me a headband when he sees mine is broken
  • he tries to make me laugh when I'm upset
  • once he tagged along with his lady colleagues to a costume jewellery warehouse sale and bought some for me (oh the jewellery is not important to me but the act of tagging along with the female colleagues to do a girl thing like dungu like that. haha.)
  • he refrains from shouting back at me when I'm shouting at him (really ha, this Mr MG got very good self control wan. Can speak calmly to people even when people shouting at him)
  • he always makes sure I don't forget important stuff cos I'm a "tai tou har" (tai tou har = big head prawn/forgetful)
  • ada banyak lagi (theres a lot more) but I won't bore anyone reading with little details, I keep in my heart lah

One of the rare times he said it was during our wedding. As according to the Chinese custom, he could not collect the bride and had to go through all the bride's "chi mui" (chi mui = sisters and girlfriends) first. Second sister asked "Why do you want to marry my sister?" and Mr MG said "Because I love her very much!" Aiyoh, MG inside the room "kam tong toh seh" (very touched). Buden hor, some eager young nephew or niece chose that exact moment to bang into the video camera wor. Sob sob sob. So MG kenot play it over and over again, no more evidence, all wiped out liao accept in the head and heart.

I know Mr MG loves me lah but then still I'd like to hear it more often. I know the man more than 10 years but has heard it less than 5 times! (Hmm... that averages less than once in 2 years. Aiyoh!) I oso seldom say wan becos shy mah. Write maybe easier lah but to say it feel a bit one kind. Maybe its our culture.... or maybe its just us.

Is saying or hearing "I Love You" all that important? I'm not sure........ What do you think? Click on the link to take MG's mya KPC Poll.

18 comments:

  1. Yoo Hoo! Over here please. (*MG jumping up and down*)

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  2. I'm here, I'm here!!
    Me & fatty oso shy to tell I love u punya orang..hehe..we show in others way..like good night kiss everynight laa..or goodbye kiss if out alone..hehe..but sometime in the sooo romantic scene oso force him to tell laaa..

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  3. I made him say it during the final stage of labour while giving birth to my second baby... while holding on hard at his hands. Thought that made I forgot about the pain a lil bit...that was 14 months ago. How pathetic is that?

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  5. If you think saying "I Love You" to your spouse is difficult, try saying it to your parents!!! :)

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  6. Hahah... I like what james just said :p It's pretty true - Man... That's a good one:D

    I feel leh, "I Love You" cannot always uttered one - It'll lose its significance if uttered too often :p On special occasions, ok lar.

    And hor, when you heard that your hubby said it ("Because I love her very much!") to your sis that night... it feels totally different to hear it from someone else, compared to hearing it directly (u were in another room, right?). More kam tong if go one big round then only reach us, instead of directly uttered at us :p I feel lar!

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  7. msau, Hehe. msau use force one, no joke. :PpP

    mama22beas, msau say "sometime in the sooo romantic scene oso force him to tell laaa.. " Haha. Labor dat time hor... anything but romantic!!!!

    James, Hiya. First time seeing you here. Our parents never said it so thats why very hard to "hoi hau". Saying it to the kids is the easiest of all.

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  8. Narrowband, Hehe. Its true that it loses its significance if uttered too often. At the time, Hubby was trying to get through the door full of giggling sisters, nieces and girlfriends begging for angpow!

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  9. If not reason or special ocasion, die die force me I also wont say it. Too awkward lah! Somemore we not good in talking, sure lagi tongue tied! Tried saying it to parents, that is even more difficult than climbing Mount Everest. Anyway, I prefer to show it through actions like Mr. MG. But if got special ocasion or just that special mood, well, it got no harm to say "I Love You" to "AROUSE" her. :bpbppb

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  10. maybe its a culture thing ,, with my children we say it at night or if they are going some where .

    But i think all ppl are different sum like to say it n mean it .Some don't feel they need to say it often.

    Well in oz there is always the guys that say it, thinking they'll get some thing in return tsk tsk.

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  11. I think "I am sorry" is harder to say, no?

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  12. Jason sudah jadi budak jahat.

    Sweetspirit, I have a self-composed song which I sing to my babies every night. It goes "Mama, sayang baby..." Now toddler sings it throughout the day becos she loves it so much.

    ah pink, izzit ah?

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  13. A&A's mom6:27 PM, March 18, 2005

    Yes same boat as you. DH sounds just like MR. MG as he shows it many other ways which I'm very very thankful. As for me it doesn't matter & I'm thankful that he shows it everyday in other ways.

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  14. I hubby say it b4 but till now i didnt tell him i love him cause i think this word cannot simply said must in special occassions or mood.

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  15. I must agree say to parents more difficult than to spouse...MG, what you describe your hubby does is so sweet. Nowadays man really know how to take care of wife hor. Our time all my mother listen to my father one.

    As for my husband, if I asked him
    "Say you love me."

    He said, "You love me."

    Chey.

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  16. Sweet couple! :)

    Can't believe we blogged about the same topic today. :) But not about me lah.. but my parents.

    I found it very difficult to say 'i love you' to my parents but now.. ok already. I tell mom I love you sometimes :)

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  17. A&A'smom, (*High 5!*)

    1+2mom, "till now i didnt tell him i love him cause i think this word cannot simply said must in special occassions or mood" (Hello,hello, you want to wait until when ler.. got 1+2 adi!)

    ET, Hehe your hubby very farnee...

    Eileen, Ya kah? Love must be in the air. Hehe. Must visit your blog and read.

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  18. Mr.MG is a typical male who is probably the sweetest I've heard. Hehe. Action speaks louder than words indeed. May you both be as affectionate as u r nw, till yr hair-greying years!

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