I wasn't sure whether to call this post Quality Time vs Quantiy Time or Their Time vs My Time.
Anyway, most days, I have many things that I want to do such as:
- Learn Piano (Its never too late to learn)
- Do my Cross Stitch (which I've neglected)
- Do my exercises
- Practise some Yoga
- Teach the Kids
- Play with the Kids
This is in addition to the normal daily things like bathing and feeding the kids and getting them to nap. I am fortunate in that I have a part time helper to help me with the cooking and cleaning, otherwise it would be even worse.
I have no time to watch TV or chat on the phone so I don't do those. Now, even with domestic help, I struggle each day to do some of the above and .....
When I spend more time doing MY own things then I feel guilty for neglecting the kids. I feel guilty for being home but not being there for them. When they come to me, I tell them "Go and play on your own, Mummy is busy." So basically I am spending Quantity Time and not Quality Time with them.
On the other hand when I spend all my time doing THEIR things with them, then I feel frustrated for neglecting myself.
Thats my daily dilemma as a SAHM. Its really very easy to say, why don't you do both and have a good balance but its not easy in practise. THERE REALLY ISN'T ENOUGH TIME!
To make myself from feeling stressed, guilty and unhappy or frustrated, I have to think about how fun it is to be a mother.
Read my poem: Me Time