My girl thinks that the way to make friends is to go up to them and ask them "Will you be my friend?"
"I don't think the girls will be my friends, mummy. They all have their own friends. I know that if I go up to them and ask them whether they will be my friend, they will say no because they have so many friends already."
She doesn't consider the boys her friends even though she may talk to or play with them. Only girls can be her best friends. Haha. I told her not to worry because in kindy she only had 10 girls who could be her friend, now she has almost 20 whom she can become friends with.
On Saturday, she was happy because she had made a new friend and they had computer class. (She had replacement classes on Saturday to replace for the CNY hols).
When I asked her how she met her new friend, she said, I told the girl........
"If I give you this sticker, will you be my friend? and the girl said yes. OMG! lol.
So I had to teach her a few ground rules about making friends......
- you don't give something to someone hoping that they will be your friend. In this way, they may befriend you only for your sticker or other things
- you don't be nice to someone hoping that they will be nice to you. Just be nice naturally
- you don't need to ASK someone to be your friend. Just be yourself, be friendly, talk to others and eventually you will become friends
I think its important to talk to your child often, especially when they are going through changes to help them through it as well as to teach them important values in life. These values and lessons can't be learned from textbooks. They are things that we all have to learn along the way and wouldn't it be good if we were given guidance and learned these things from young?
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